美文欣赏：25岁前应该拥有的东西

Many of these are things that we’ll be lucky to attain at any point in our lives. They’re not all universally applicable, this I realize. But I also realize that for many people, they are 25 little things that are important for dealing with the ins and outs of everyday adult life. These are ways to take care of ourselves, our lives, and the people in them, and not only to know ourselves, but to act on that knowledge as well.

下面的这些东西，无论我们何时得到，对我们来说都是幸运的。我知道，它们并不是放之四海而皆准的。但我也意识到，对很多人来说，这25件小事对于处理成人生活每天的细节来说都是很重要的。这些是照顾好我们自己、我们的生活、和我们有关的人的方法。不仅要去认识自己，还要采取相应的行动。

1. A room of your own. I would say apartment or other kind of space, but sometimes that’s not financially feasible, and that’s okay. Regardless, at the minimum, everybody needs their own room. Your own space to be weird and cry and be alone or be alone with someone.

自己的房间。公寓或类似的空间就行，但有时从经济的角度来说是不可行的，那也没关系。但无论如何，每个人都需要自己的房间。你可以在自己的房间里举止怪异、哭、或和他人单独相处。

2. A worldview that isn’t a carbon copy of what your parents taught you nor derived from the experiences you’ve only read about in a textbook.

自己的世界观。不是你父母教给你的，也不能从教科书中的经验获得的。

3. A person to call when things gets rough and a plan of action for the days where you need to be refueled in the human ways that aren’t easily bought or attained.

一个值得信赖的人：当遇到困难时可以给对方打电话;当你需要加油打气时，可以帮你制定行动计划;这些都是不容易买到或得到的。

4. A savings account with at least a month or so of living expenses. This might sound unattainable if finances aren’t looking great right now but it’s more than crucial to make it work somehow. The importance of this usually isn’t recognized until it’s the reason you’re eating or not out on the street one day after you lose your job.

一个至少留下一个月左右的生活费用的银行账户。如果财政状况不理想，这听起来很难做到。但是用某种方式来实现它至关重要。平时通常不会意识到它的重要性，但是当有一天你失去工作后，那你就会意识到这有多重要了：至少这能保证你有饭吃，也不至于露宿街头。

5. Clothing that will serve you in appropriate circumstances– funerals, weddings, work. A winter jacket, a rain coat. Not just things that are flimsy and unpractical, though they have their place and time as well. Because the last thing you want to do on the day of the wake of someone you deeply cared about is worry about what you are going to wear.

在适当的环境下可以穿的衣服——葬礼、婚礼、工作时。冬天的夹克、雨衣。不要光有易坏和不实用的东西，虽然在某一时刻某一场所也需要它们。因为在你给深深牵挂的人守夜那天，你最不想做的事情就是担心自己该穿什么。

6. A relationship that functions outside of anything digital. To not deny ourselves the need for person-to-person connectivity.

一段不需要数字科技产品就能运转的感情。不要否认：你需要面对面的交流。

7. A favorite book, artist and YouTube channel.

一本最喜欢的书、艺术家或YouTube频道。

8. To know how to order a drink at the bar.

了解如何在酒吧里点喝的。

9. A relationship behind you that you can laugh about, and which makes you grateful for how far you’ve come.

一段可以让你自嘲的恋爱史，它会让你感激如今一路走来的你。

10. An email address, bank account and journal that nobody else has access to.

其他人无权访问的电子邮件地址、银行账户和日记。

11. A plunger, screwdriver, duct tape, jumper cables and the number of your local whoever is a professional at doing anything one would use those things for.

水拔子、螺丝刀、胶带、跳接线和本地擅长使用这些东西的人的电话号码。

12. The ability to ask somebody on a date, take them somewhere nice, treat them right, not stress too much over what you wear to said occasion and be able to hold an interesting conversation with them.

邀请别人约会、带他们去适合的地方和恰当地款待他们的能力，不用过分强调要穿什么，但能和他们进行有趣的对话。

13. Your own doctor, with whom you feel comfortable discussing your medical needs and issues, and the ability to receive the medication/birth control/whatever you want or need without anybody else having to know about it.

你自己的医生。你可以很舒服地和他讨论你的医疗需求和问题，能进行药物治疗、节育、或任何你想要的治疗，而无需让别人知道。

14. Go-to clothing staples that are shining little emblems of who you really are, of which were chosen and bought not because they were a trend but because they fit in more ways than just size.

能体现出自己品味的常用的衣服店，选择并买衣服，不是因为是流行趋势，而是因为它们不仅仅尺寸合适，而且能体现自我。

15. A list of things you’d like to do in your life, none of which involves attaining masses of wealth or other means of success that are fleeting and shallow.

有生之年你想做的事情清单，其中不包括获得巨额财产或其他短暂而肤浅的事情。

16. A basic opinion/belief regarding religion or spirituality, even if it’s that you’re researching options or that you don’t believe in anything at all. Having a stance, regardless of what it is, is what’s important.

关于宗教或精神信仰的基本观点，即便是你正在研究或你是无神论者。拥有立场，无论这个立场是什么，重要的是拥有它。

17. Measuring cups, a pot deep enough to boil water in, a spatula, a frying pan and other basic cooking materials that virtually every meal that isn’t Easy Mac or cereal requires.

量杯、一口足够深可以让水沸腾的锅、一个锅铲、一个平底锅和其他基本的烹调用具，这样就不用每顿饭都吃通心面或麦片了。

18. A signature recipe, plates for more than just two people to eat with, a bottle opener and the knowledge of where they sell the best wine in the area.

一份有特色的食谱、两人以上可用的碟子、开瓶器，并知道本地哪里有卖最好的红酒。

19. A simple luxury that you fund yourself, and the realization and acknowledgement that said thing is indeed a luxury.

自己攒钱买的一件简单的奢侈品，以及对这件东西是奢侈品的基本认知。

20. The ability to use personal/vacation days without feeling guilty, and the knowledge of how they’d most effectively be used for one’s mental, physical or emotional benefit.

能自己度假而不感到内疚，知道这样对你的精神、身体或情感来说有很多益处。

21. A way to have fun again.

玩得开心的方法。

22. To get rid of scales and stop measuring lives by numbers: salaries, houses owned, things accomplished, degrees hanging on the wall, etc. Because usually, nothing really worth having can be measured numerically.

摆脱计量的能力，不再用数字来衡量生活：薪水、房子的数量、完成的事情、挂在墙上的学位证等。因为通常情况下，值得拥有的东西没什么能用数字来衡量。

23. To have eaten a meal, seen a movie, taken a walk and fallen asleep by yourself– and to have been content, if not happy, with doing so.

自己吃顿饭、看场电影、散散步、熟睡——如果不开心的话，这样做你会安心。

24. The ability to put things in perspective, to let go when it’s appropriate, fight harder when it’s necessary, listen to people rather than just hear them, and consider opinions that aren’t congruent with your own.

能正确地看待事物、在适当的时刻放手、必要的时候努力抗争，倾听别人而不只是听他们说，考虑和自己想法不同的意见。

25. To have given yourself to someone, and not expected anything in return.

对别人付出，并不期望任何回报。

（兼职编辑：张博）

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